Before creating our own family, each of us dreamed of a happy marriage in which husband and wife respect and adore each other. This dream is beautiful although the reality is disappointing. My story is an example of this. There was a time when my marriage was not as harmonious as I would have liked. My husband and I used to fight over trivialities involving housework or even our ways of life. Our love was affected by the triviality of our life, as the song says: “It is difficult to fall in love but more difficult is to get along.
Before we got married, I trusted that my husband and I would get along because we loved each other and because we understood each other, but the problems started after we got married. We argued when we did not agree on how to do something. There were times when, for example, my husband would reproach me for the way I did the housework. At the beginning, he was silent, although my heart did not agree, but there was a moment when his constant criticism made me refute: “Well, if I'm wrong, then what is right? If you think that what I am doing is wrong, then you do it! " Although these words stopped the discussion, they were always followed by an awkward silence. I knew it hurt him, but I couldn't put my self-esteem aside to speak to him. As a result, the dispute ended in several days of cold war. At times he would despair of me. For example, I disliked the clothes she wore, as I felt that she did not care about her personal hygiene and that she could not look good in front of others. When I filled his head with pebbles, he blamed me "you are a cleaning freak, you are too select." In any case, there was always a lot of tension between us.
I didn't know what to do with my marriage, so I asked my friends and family who have been married for years for advice. Some advised me to be more tolerant, since “Compromising makes a conflict much easier to resolve”; Others told me to give myself my place since everyone humiliated the weak and acclaimed the strong. I followed his advice, but to no avail. When I tried to hold back my desire to argue with him, I felt my heart despair and get angry, as if I had lost something, since by fighting, our relationship strengthened. After several failures, I knew that no one could help me resolve my family conflicts. I couldn't stop thinking about the reason why we couldn't get along and who could help me solve my problems.
Then my friend preached the gospel of God to me and I was fortunate to become a Christian. As I read the word of God, I began to understand why people could not harmoniously get along. God's words say: "As man has accepted the evil, arrogant and malicious nature of Satan, inevitably in their interpersonal relationships there are frequent conflicts, arguments and incompatibilities, created as a consequence of the arrogant nature of Satan." These words made me realize that my husband and I were fighting all the time because we both had an arrogant nature. Being dominated by our arrogance, we were carrying out some of Satan's rules; for example, humiliate the weak and acclaim the strong; An eye for an eye, a tooth for a tooth, and so on. Influenced by these rules, our humanity became abnormal. As the desire to marry eventually fades, our malicious natures gradually become exposed, as well as our arrogant character, which generates dissatisfaction with various aspects of our lives, including even the way others act. We always think that our own opinions are correct and we want to make others do our will. Since no one obeys anyone, we have more conflicts, thus leading to a more depressing and uncomfortable life. That can be seen without changing our satanic nature, since we humans live under pain constantly and even husband and wife, who adored each other, feel like breaking apart, thus failing to live harmoniously forever.
Fortunately, today God does the work of salvation to cleanse us and change our satanic characters, of which the main one is the arrogant character. Finding the cause of my family conflicts, and knowing that my arrogant character can be resolved according to God's words, I decided to seek a change to my arrogance, but I knew that I could not transform myself and that I would need God's help, because God said: “If people are to understand the truth and see the truth clearly, and if, furthermore, they are to enter the truth and put it into practice, they must really train, really seek and really be hungry and thirsty. When you are hungry and thirsty and when you really cooperate with God, the Spirit of God will surely touch and work in you, which will give you more enlightenment, and will give you more knowledge of reality that will be of great help to your life. ”. Through God's words, I knew that to solve my arrogance problems, I had to desire God, talk more with Him and always do His will because only in this way could I obtain the grace of the Holy Spirit, since God would help me and that it would not be difficult for me to change my life.
By understanding God's will and demands, I tried to practice the truth and betray myself. When there were disputes between my husband and I, I prayed to God to help me not to get carried away by my arrogance and to allow me to see things more clearly. If he was right, I would try to apologize and do what he told me, but if he was wrong, I would not lecture him, but I would calm down and try to tell him things so that he would understand them. Eventually, we stopped fighting and our house was filled with laughter and happiness. Before, when I asked him for something, he would ignore me, even if I repeated it many times, but later, I stopped asking him for things and tried to do what I could inside and outside the house and then he began to offer to help with the housework. Afterwards, he not only helped me, but he even asked my opinion. Then our relationship became more harmonious and everything became simpler between us. I couldn't help but tell him: This is amazing! The truth can change everything, as long as we can rely on God, His words so that our humanity and our rationality become normal, as well as our interpersonal relationships. Only the truth can solve all our problems and our difficulties, change our corrupt character that we cannot change in ourselves so that we lead a new life beside God and that it is more relaxed and harmonious.