Account in red
One of the things we least expect in marriage is that our spouse stops trusting us due to some serious action (infidelity).
Nobody gets up in the morning of a new day thinking today I am going to make a big mistake, these circumstances occur progressively and meticulously and when we least agree, we will face the crisis.
Let's consider some dangerous signs:
1. Ignore the evidence of problems
The solvency trap captivated me
2. Being blind to the problems of your soul
Don't feel alone in your problems or frustrations
3. Overwork
Too much eagerness produces exhaustion and anxiety that silently leads us to experience things that we believe can distract or relax us.
4. Ignoring and neglecting our relationship with God
This is one of the biggest oversights that a man or a woman has and that expose them to seduction, all of the above is like a chain with its links that are followed by one another to ignore the problems, be blind to our soul problems and overwork leads us to neglect that relationship or intimacy with God.
5. If you know your weakness, don't isolate yourself
The same bilbia says: that the good would be called bad, and the grind would be called good. Isaiah 5:20 an isolated person does bad things that he will think are good.
Isolating yourself is one of the biggest problems that human beings have and that exposes them to make many mistakes, solitude without purpose is not good, solitude with purpose is positive. (Rest, meditate, read a book, study the bible).
6. Too much work produces fatigue
Fatigue produces tiredness and tiredness leads to stress and stress to confusion.
Many men and women have succumbed to stress and have ended up in the wrong arms at one point in their lives, stress is one of the great silent enemies in marriage today which affects men and women and has repercussions. very strong in the one away from home.
Regaining the trust of our spouse will take a process that is sometimes slow and painful and at other times slow and acceptable, trust is something that must be taken care of and know how to manage within marriage because it is one of the columns that sustain a marriage.
Here are the four columns of marriage:
A. Communication
B. Compression
C. Trust
D. Attention
This does not mean that the previous four mentioned are the only ones, there are many more ingredients that keep a marriage solid and stable, for example some: Love, respect, good treatment, protection and beautiful details.
When the account goes red, some of these previously written concepts are lost and this produces a marriage in crisis. Many turn to the psychologist, others to a family therapist and very few to a spiritual guide (pastor). The spiritual advisor is the last to be sought in these crises due to the fear of being confronted and exhorted without mercy.
How I earn my partner's trust:
Begin to be transparent in all your actions, show the utmost sincerity when speaking; It is advisable to change your cell phone number if necessary, change places of frequency, spend more time with your partner, as much as possible, a more fluid communication, not make use of lies, maintain agreements about your relationship and keep the limits in some relationships between people of the opposite sex.
Many marriages have been restored with the above tips and with the practice of spending more time with your spouse the motivation to travel together is very important for both of you, spending more special time can bring an acceleration of trust.
Proverbs 5:18 tells us that we rejoice with the woman of our youth.
Our conduct and our conviction in God are two areas of the life of man and woman that must be restored in the process in order to re-establish the trust that was once had, turning to God is a sign of repentance in which God himself He does not despise us, he receives us with love.
The account in red will remain if we do not give our heart to God, to give our heart to him is to consider my imperfect partner like me.
In love there is no fear, but perfect love casts out fear; because fear carries with it punishment. Whence he who fears has not been perfected in love. 1 John 4:18
Love is long-suffering, it is kind; love is not envious, love is not boastful, it is not puffed up; does not do anything improper, does not seek his own, does not get irritated, does not hold a grudge; one does not enjoy injustice, but one enjoys the truth. He suffers everything, believes everything, hopes everything, supports everything. Love never stops being; but the prophecies will end, and tongues will cease, and science will end. 1 Corinthians 13: 4-8