Fan the Fire of your Marriage
¨ You, husbands, likewise, live with them wisely, giving honor to the woman as a most fragile vessel, and as joint heirs of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered. 1. Ped. 3: 7
God created men and women as sexual creatures. Therefore, sex should be considered a divine gift from a good God.
He designed sex for a man and a woman to enjoy within the marriage covenant, and is intended to be good, exciting, powerful, and unifying.
Genesis 2:24 ¨ Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother, and be united to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
A marriage is enlivened through intimacy, that is how we become one flesh, sex produces unity and uniqueness (uniqueness: unique, singular)
It constitutes the most intense physical intimacy and the deepest spiritual unity possible between a man and a woman.
That is why God only approves of sexual relationships within marriage because we are one. Proverbs 5: 15-21
Paul points out that sexual problems in marriage can get in the way of the Christian life, especially that of prayer.
1. Corinthians 7: 3 ¨ The husband fulfills the conjugal duty with the wife, also the wife with the husband.¨
2. Timothy 1: 6 ¨For this reason I advise you to fan the fire of the gift of God that is in you by the laying on of my hands.¨
Look at both texts it does not tell you: the neighbor fulfill your conjugal duty and the other does not tell you: there I come to enliven the gift of God that is in your life.
In both texts he addresses the person directly; The husband complies and says to Timothy: Revive the gift of God that is in you.
Do not evade your responsibility both sexually and spiritually. It is there where many men and women of God are failing, they do not recognize their part and only lean towards the spiritual, as if it were easier for them and both things go together, a woman who is pleased and loved leads you to flow better.
The Bible is not a sex book, it contains a complete theology of sexuality, which includes the purposes of sex, warnings against misuse, and a beautiful portrait of ideal physical intimacy (song of songs).
The Bible has some important teachings regarding sexuality:
+ Knowledge (Gen 4: 1)
+ Intimate unity (Gen 2:24)
+ Comfort (Gen 24:67)
+ Procreation (Gen 1:28)
+ Joy and Pleasure (Song 2: 8-17, 4: 1-16)
+ Prevention of extramarital temptations (1 Cor. 7: 2-5)
God's commandments for the husband:
He must find satisfaction in his wife (Pro 5:19).
He must find joy in his wife (Eccl. 9: 9).
He must be concerned with meeting the specific needs of his wife (Deut. 24: 5,
1 Peter 3: 7).
God's commandments for women:
She must be sexually available to her husband (1 Cor. 7: 3-5)
She must prepare to captivate her husband's heart (Song 4: 9-15)
She must show sexual interest in her husband (Song 4:16, 5: 2)
Must be sensitive to specifically masculine needs (Gen. 24:67)
Biblical Principles Governing Sex:
* Sexual relationships within marriage are holy and good. God encourages them and warns of the danger of their cessation. (1. Co. 7: 5)
* Pleasure in sexual intercourse is healthy and what to expect. The body of each spouse belongs to the other (Pr. 5: 15-19, 1.Co. 7: 4)
* Anything that is safe, pleasant, enjoyable, and satisfying for both of you is acceptable. The body of each one belongs to the other (1 Cor. 7: 4) We must not demand from our partner anything that is painful, harmful, degrading or unpleasant.
* Our request for sexual intercourse should always take into consideration the welfare of the spouse. Not being selfish with our partner.
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