Wound or Scar
¨ He himself, in his body, took our sins to the tree, so that we die to sin and live for justice. By your wounds you have been healed. ¨. 1. Peter 2:24 NIV
Introduction: the second most important decision of a man or woman is who am I going to marry? the wound is a pain of the present, the Scar is what has already happened.
Wound: it is derived from Latin, from the verb ferire that can be translated as ¨ wound or hit ¨ a wound is a cut or injury in some part of the living body.
Scar: This word comes from Latin, specifically from the voice ¨ cicatrix ¨ which means a sign of a wound. A scar is the response that the body produces. And it is through a natural repair process that is through time. (which has already happened) the good Samaritan took that man to the mezon so that the innkeeper would heal his wounds.
1. Scars that I belong to Christ. Galatians 6:17
¨ From now on, let no one cause me problems with those things. Well, I carry scars on my body that show that I belong to Jesus. ¨ NTV.
In ancient times a seal was put on the slaves as a mark and this caused a temporary wound that with the passing of the days produced a scar, that is why Paul uses that language of the time to make himself understood that his past It was not something of the present, he had a painless scar, he was no longer a slave to the past.
Many couples are in crisis today because the wound has not healed, they have not managed to make a scar, living with the past in the present, is living with the wound that causes pain or that is still bleeding. The past at one point was present, but it ceased to be present for today to be past, the one who remains anchored in the past lives with the wound permanently and is tied to neither loving nor being loved.
2. Corinthians 11: 23-27 the wounds from the past were enough that had scarred Paul's body but not his heart.
Some were healed from the outside but the heart continues to bleed.
Time must have healed that wound of violence, infidelity, verbal abuse or psychological etc….
Today your spouse is a new creature according to 2. Corinthians 5: 17-18
Jesus left us the ministry of reconciliation not the ministry of resentment.
The one who heals the wounds and carries the scar in their relationship is the one who is willing to crucify and die every day according to.
"Truly, I tell you, if the grain of wheat does not fall to the ground and die, it remains alone; but if it dies, it bears much fruit ¨ John 12:24
2. Wounds stink. Philippians 3: 8
¨ That's right, everything else is worth nothing when compared to the infinite value of knowing Jesus Christ, my Lord. Out of love for him, I have thrown everything else out and considered it trash in order to win Christ. ¨ Fil. 3: 8 NTV
If a wound is not treated it can turn into a putrid and nauseating sore, there are men and women who, neither for the love of Christ, nor for their children, and much less for the years of being married, do not want to give in to be healed of the wound. of the past and achieve the kind of forgetfulness scar.
says: the infinite value of knowing Jesus Christ, if you know him he also knows you, and that helps us to forget the past, say I already forgot, I forgot, I already forgot, I have in life who to live for I love and they love me, do not stay in yesterday said someone there.
Tell God about the past.
¨ But forget all that; It's nothing compared to what I'm going to do ¨. Isaiah 43:18 NLT
There are couples who still cannot see what is about God because they are still married to the past and divorced in the present, they already see themselves alone and bitter in the future.
The wounds are not the same as being hurt, there are words that we do not see to say to our partner or children because they hurt very hard.
You can't / won't make it, Fool / irresponsible you shake / failed / incompetent / I'm disappointed in you /
You are very shy / Do not embarrass your partner in public / you hinder me / you are always wrong / lazy / make him feel inferior / you are boring / how ugly you have become / I never ridiculed your partner / you are useless / never knowing you you're going to do / I don't know what you were born for / stupid /
¨ No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not succeeded, but I focus solely on this: I forget the past and fix my gaze on what lies ahead and thus advance until I reach the end of the race to receive the heavenly prize to which God call through Jesus Christ ¨ Philippians 3: 13-14 NLT
The one who loves his partner focuses solely on forgetting the past and looking forward to the future, look at his adulthood and old age next to his wife and grandchildren, do not pretend to live happily with a young woman after already having a family, Do not take the fashion of today that Facebook has a girlfriend and they send her to bring her, the best way to love someone is by meeting her head-on, where she lives, going out with her. Etc…
There is a prize for those who reach the end who have managed to heal wounds from the past.
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